In an informal poll of a half-dozen men over the last week I found that 100% of them were wishing this Hallmark holiday never existed. Based on the line at Walgreen’s last night at 9pm, I can say the world feels a responsibility to buy something red, sweet or shiny for someone today. Let me offer an alternative.
Valentine’s Day should be about emotionally connecting with someone you care about.
What if you put aside time on the couch, in front of a fire, or over a meal (in or out) and discussed these five questions:
- What were the high points of our past year together?
- What did we overcome?
- What are the things facing us that have me worried?
- What should we be doing more of and less of in the coming year?
- Why are you/this relationship so important to me?
Too often, both at work and at home, we don’t put enough value on giving our time and full focus.
Most of my life is spent helping leaders connect with and influence the people around them. As I look at this list it hits me that it would probably be a powerful conversation to have at work.
Sometimes I wonder if we think too much and don’t feel enough.